Social connection is a fundamental need comparable to essential elements such as food, water, and air. According to the Office of the U.S. Surgeon General, social isolation has increased since 2003, while time spent in companionship, social engagement, and family interactions has decreased. Introverts may initially perceive this trend as favorable, given their preference for solitary activities; however, they also require social connection to thrive. Although technology can appear advantageous for introverts, it possesses certain drawbacks. While it facilitates connections, one study found that individuals who engaged with social media for two hours daily felt twice as lonely as those who spent only 30 minutes.

Loneliness and social isolation are distinct concepts. Loneliness is primarily based on perception, whereas social isolation involves physical separation from others. It is possible to feel lonely even within a large crowd.

Loneliness negatively impacts physical, mental, and spiritual health. Studies have shown that the detrimental effects of loneliness on mortality are akin to smoking 15 cigarettes daily, consuming six alcoholic drinks daily, being physically inactive, being obese, or daily exposure to air pollution.

Social connection comprises three vital components: structure, function, and quality. Structure refers to the number, frequency, and variety of relationships, including households, book clubs, service organizations, and work environments. Function pertains to the degree to which relationships fulfill individuals’ needs, such as emotional support. Quality encompasses the positive and negative aspects of relationships and interactions.

Extroverts derive energy from being around people and thrive within social structures, while introverts may experience anxiety in such environments. The quality of social structures is crucial; for instance, one may choose to avoid certain family members. Research consistently demonstrates that individuals engaged in healthy social networks experience higher life satisfaction, longer lifespans, fewer health issues, and greater overall enjoyment of life.

There are numerous ways to enhance social networks. Consider joining a service organization, participating in religious activities, volunteering in the community, joining clubs such as book clubs or dance classes, and deepening existing relationships. Creativity in fostering social connections, such as hosting social gatherings, provides limitless opportunities to make new friends and strengthen existing bonds.

Paul Bokker Ph.D., LPC/S, NCC, BCC, NBC-HWC, BC-TMH
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